Sex Tip No. 12 – Spanking
Part of the Weekly Sex Tips Series
Spanking has been around for a very long time. So although we haven’t invented it, we can certainly enjoy it whether you are spanking or being spanked.
The key to spanking is to develop a soft spank. There will be time for hard spanking later, if your partner can take it and likes it, but first there needs to be a soft spank. Start by caressing the ass. That’s the main thing before spanking hard. You want to sneak up on that ass after a good caress, and THWACK! But not too hard. You can scare your partner half to death, so BE GENTLE!
Wait wait, pump the brakes, let me make some obligatory comment: Before Striking Anyone’s Big Phat Fine Booty, get their consent.
Good Girl Spanking
Now, let’s get into the blurry lines of pain and pleasure, of power and sex. Many woman are attracted to men in suits or men with (or who appear to have) money. Why is this? Power. Money is a symbol of power. Nothing turns most people on more than taking or giving power, based on that person’s personal needs/desires. Spanking is a transference of power. The one spanking has the power. The one being spanked is giving the power. The spanker in good girl spanking is often the guy fucking the girl from behind and slapping her ass while she’s in that ass-sexy doggy style position (see last week’s post about properly arching the back, ladies!). Spanking during doggy style is a good girl spanking. She’s getting fucked hard. There’s no seeing each other’s faces, she feels like an animal and the spank is a kind of powerful way to remind her—giddy-up—to move faster and really push back on that dick. It’s a way for the person spanking her and fucking her to say, good girl. Of course there’s a little more to it than simply one giving and one taking, but for this short post I’m not going to get into the deep and muddy waters of how the submissive is really in control and all that acid jazz. For this post, the one spanking is taking charge.
Bad Girl Spanking
However, spanking doesn’t have to be a good girl confidence boost. It can be a punishment. Spanking can be a more of a bad girl ritual. You can get her in a slutty outfit and use some paraphernalia like crops, whips, and paddles to punish your partner for bad behavior. You may still want to caress that ass a little bit first to warm it up before dishing out your punishment, but ultimately you are meant to cause pain and to keep your disobedient slave in line. This can be a punishment for not following orders, for dressing incorrectly, or anything up you dream up.
60% of women like to be spanked!
Pain and Pleasure Come from the SAME receptors int he brain (if you’re reading this blog, my guess is that you already knew that. SMUTPUNK up, baby!)